Today, I learned a lot

I hate to say this, but it seems as if a lot of people who claim to want help don't really want help, they just like to say how they want/need help losing weight but don't like to do what it takes to acheive that goal. No, not everyone can be me and I cannot be everyone else but one thing I can say about me is, when I have ever needed help, knew I needed it and wanted it, I made sure that I played my part in helping help me.

I have been joining Facebook groups where there claim to be people who want to lose weight for the sake of seeking out people who needed help losing weight and getting into shape and one of the groups I joined was for "obese" or "morbidly obese" people... it was a "support group". This had been the second one that I had joined this week so far and what I had found is that the people in these groups kinda seem like they don't really want help, they just want to post about wanting help or needing help. Now... I'm sure that's not really everyone in these groups, however, when you make a post about being able to help and your transformation, you get kicked out of these groups. I had put the disclaimer that I didn't want to break the rules, I stated that I am a PT and that instead of just posting about my packages and plans I just simply wanted to share my story because from reading a lot of these posts, I could relate. I got kicked out of the second group today.

What I see is it seems as if these "support" groups only seem to make people in these types of conditions feel comfortable with having diabetes, chafings between their legs and sweat in places where they are complaining about where they have to apply talcom powder which makes me very sad. It kinda reminds me of what a good friend of mine was saying to me about being so used to being miserable. His point was, sometimes you get so used to being miserable and claiming that you want to make change that when you are provided a way to make those changes, you push those opportunities away. And yea... that makes you look very ridiculous and crazy and the more you speak on everything you don't want or hate and pushing the better opportunity away, the more people do not feel sorry for you anymore because you're not even trying to do better anymore... you're just so used to complaining that it becomes second and even first nature for you and that is what I see in a lot of these groups.

Just because I am in fitness doesn't make me better than these people... as a matter of fact, beyond having a fitness journey I can be quite the same. So used to complaining about what I don't want that at times it seems when it's time to do it, I get scared and just continue complaining even more. But at the same time... when I complain... once I get the opportunity to fix whatever it is about myself and my situations, I like to atleast make the effort to gear toward making the problem disappear. I can't really say the same for these groups and I don't like that I can't.

People who do not want to change for the better are part of the problem. Their own problem but never the less, the problem. I don't want to be that person anymore. I don't want to complain about anything anymore... I want it to get me so upset and I want to unwant whatever is causing me the problem so much that I actually do something about it all. I wish nothing but the best for these people and hopefully one day this mindset vanishes from everybody... especially myself. Me helping people also helps me with this and I just want to make that happen for as many people as I can.